Mom Truth

Many of us moms often go around with an underlying discouraged and an “I could be a better at fill in the blank” feeling. 

We feel overwhelmed by our lists of things to accomplish and as though we are falling short of capturing this time with our kids that everyone likes to remind us is going to fly by so we’d better enjoy every moment (no pressure). 

Many of us compare ourselves to the lives of other moms and influencers we see as we scroll on social media. And we don’t feel like we measure up much of the time.

In turn, we either beat ourselves up consciously or numb out to escape feeling disappointment or anxiety. We don’t give ourselves the recognition we deserve for showing up for our families and the love that we show them daily. 

We don’t acknowledge what we create for our families from the dentist appointments to the birthday parties that we plan to celebrate them and everything in between. 

Many of us feel like we can’t give ourselves credit because we aren’t showing up exactly how we think we are supposed to. This creates a shame spiral and it repeats itself over and over.  This in turn prevents us from fully enjoying our lives. 

We are convinced we don’t deserve the best because we should be doing it better. 

Let me ask you something: when was the last time you evaluated your best friend to make sure she deserved your love and kindness? 

For example, many of us think we should keep a tidier house or be a mom who does it all. When we don’t, we beat ourselves up. How many times have you asked your friend about the condition of her house or how much she does as a mom before offering her love? 

I’m guessing that you have never asked her these things and it may even sound ridiculous to do such a thing. 

Yet we do this to ourselves most of the time. 

Mommas: the condition of your house and the amount of love and time we give to our kids has absolutely nothing to do with your worth. Somewhere along the way, we attached the two and it’s time to get back to the truth. 

We will never be able to live up to what this world dictates that current moms should be.  And once we begin to accept that we were never meant to, we can start enjoying our lives.

Does this mean we stop trying to be the best we can be?  No. It means we stop chasing the unicorn Pinterest robot version of ourselves that we have been sold (thank you consumerism) and start focusing on what love looks like for ourselves and our families.  When we stop running after the impossible, we can step into the greatness that God has for each of our lives.