Ask Better Questions

For years I asked myself questions that had me focusing on my limited belief system of not being good enough. Questions like: Why does everything have to be a struggle? Why do I keep falling short? Why does everyone seem to manage their life better than me?

You see, these questions drove my focus for years. They drove me to constantly look for evidence of why I wasn’t good enough. They reinforced my feelings of defeat and inadequacy. They reinforced a story about a woman who was a victim and would never be the hero of her own life, had she continued asking herself these questions.

Whatever questions you ask, your brain will want to support and look for evidence to confirm. If you are asking yourself, “Why do these bad things keep happening to me?” It will look for proof of the bad things that are happening in your life. Other common questions in our culture are: Why can’t I have the perfect body or look ageless? Why can’t I have as much money and success as my neighbors? 
Why is the world getting worse; more war, famines, etc.? The answers to these questions will leave each and every one of us feeling disempowered and a victim in our lives.

It is important to keep in mind that the brain always wants to be efficient and up to something. If we don’t take charge and direct it, it will start running on survival mode and will have you focusing on any potential threats to its survival. Although we no longer have saber tooth tigers chasing us, we may as well still have them when it comes to our brain. Our brains machinery is intended to help us survive. However, in order to thrive we must manage our minds diligently.

My challenge to you is to identify the questions you are asking yourself on a regular basis. Are they supporting a life that you want to create or are they default questions that you’ve been asking for years that aren’t serving you? The questions you ask yourself shape and construct your story, your legacy, and your life.

These days I am asking myself questions that leave me feeling inspired, empowered and ready to take on the world. Questions like; how can I create more joy in every moment? What can I do today that will support me to be the best version of myself? How can I leave everyone that I interact with more inspired? How can I create a moment with my family today that will be a treasured one?